39: How To Quit Obsessing Over Why He Hasn't Messaged
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How To Quit Obsessing Over Why He Hasn't Messaged
Have you ever been frozen in an anxious spiral, obsessing over why your latest match on Bumble hasn’t replied to your message yet?
Or you’ve been on an amazing second, third, fourth date with someone but now they’re not as texty as they were?
This is the episode for you.
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I tackle the common dating struggle of obsessing over unanswered messages and offer practical solutions to break free from this cycle.
Dating-induced anxiety is a real challenge, especially for those new to stable relationships. I share personal experiences and insights into managing anxiety in the dating world, highlighting the importance of building self-confidence.
Here’s what we cover:
1. The Cycle of Dating Anxiety: Exploring the anxious thoughts and fears that arise while waiting for a message from someone you're dating.
2. The Root Cause: Addressing the root cause of dating anxiety – a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem.
3. Continuous Self-Improvement: Emphasising the ongoing process of building self-confidence and self-esteem as a solution to long-term anxiety.
4. Realistic Expectations: Encouraging realistic reasoning for delayed responses, avoiding irrational assumptions about the other person's intentions.
5. The 90/90 Mindset Concept: Introducing the concept of striving for 90% confidence 90% of the time, allowing for occasional moments of anxiety.
6. Mindset Exercises: Sharing practical mindset exercises like positive affirmations and reframing thoughts to alleviate anxiety.
7. Practical Actions: Offering actionable steps to distract yourself from obsessive thoughts, including mood-boosting playlists and processing with friends.
8. Energetic Exercises: Exploring energetic exercises like breathwork, EFT tapping and box breathing to manage physical symptoms of anxiety.
By listening to this episode, you'll gain valuable insights into managing dating anxiety, understanding its root causes, and incorporating practical exercises to navigate these challenging moments.
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