41: Important Changes I Made To How I Date Now I'm In My 30s
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Important Changes I Made To How I Date Now I'm In My 30s
Are you ready to leave the mistakes you made in your twenties behind and date with confidence in your thirties?
Do you need guidance on what those mistakes *could* have been?
Would you like to make changes to the way you’re dating so you can manifest your dream relationship?
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I delve into the significant changes I've experienced in dating as I transitioned from my twenties to my thirties. Reflecting on my current ‘relationship’ and the positive impact these changes have had, I share valuable insights for those navigating the dating world.
Here’s what we cover:
1. Shifting How We Meet: Dating in my twenties often began with an in person physical attraction, while in my thirties, all but one of my first dates has come from dating apps.
2. Challenging the Lust-Led Approach: Previously led by physical chemistry, discover why I now focus more on emotional and intellectual connection.
3. Revised Priorities in Partner Attributes: I no longer seek the handsome, rich, drives-a-flash-car boy I used to and instead have found something that turns me on more than the amount of money he has in the bank or the brand of clothes he wears…
4. Embracing Sobriety in Dating: Moving away from using alcohol as a crutch for confidence, I've embraced sober dating which has lead to building more genuine connections.
5. Transformed Mindset and Behaviour: Transitioning from insecurity and game-playing in my twenties to self-acceptance and authenticity in my thirties, learn how I've cultivated healthier approaches to dating.
6. Positive Self-Talk and Affirmations: From self-doubt to self-assurance, I've shifted my internal dialogue to affirmations of self-love and worthiness which has been a game changer for my dating life.
7. Overcoming Anxiety and Fear of Abandonment: While anxiety and fear of loss once dominated my dating experience, I've learned to manage these emotions (though there’s still times I struggle because, hello, I’m a human being).
The Dating Debrief
I’m running a brand new FREE masterclass called The Dating Debrief where I’ll be revealing how I went from anxious, codependent and unable to speak up in relationships to confidently dating, able to set solid boundaries, and having the time of my (love) life.
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Episodes mentioned:
This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence
Dating Advice: How Can I Stop Comparing Myself?
How to Quit Obsessing Over Why He Hasn’t Messaged
Dating Diaries: A New Year, A New Season
My First Date of 2024: Everything You Need to Know
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