18: How to Cancel a Date with the ‘Nice One’
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How to Cancel a Date with the ‘Nice One’
You’ve been on a lovely date with a lovely guy and had a lovely time.
But however lovely it was, he’s just not doing it for you. The problem is, you’ve committed to another date.
How can you cancel a date with the nice one, without coming across as a complete arsehole?
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing the exact message I send to the lovely men who just aren’t for me. Learn the one thing you need to remember when rejecting someone and steal my script for the next time you need to cancel on someone.
Here are the key topics covered:
1. Great First Date: Hear about the lovely first date I had with a genuinely nice guy at the start of the year.
2. Change of Heart: Learn why I had to cancel the second date we had planned and how ultimately, this lead to me deciding not to see him again.
3. Feeling the Guilt: I share why I’ve always felt guilty about cancelling plans in the past and how him paying for the date made me feel like I owed him a second one (even though he wasn’t that type of guy).
4. The Honesty Approach: Discover the honest and respectful approach I take when it comes to cancelling dates or rejecting someone I’m just not into.
5. Respectful Closure: It's crucial to remember that you don't owe anyone anything. Understand that it's okay to change your mind.
6. Positive Responses: I’m revealing how the men I’ve sent this message to have responded when I’ve politely and respectfully said I’m just not into them.
Ultimately, we all date with the goal of finding a genuine connection, and sometimes it just doesn't happen. It's better to be honest early on than to force something that isn't there. So, if you ever find yourself needing to cancel a date with the "nice one," use an upfront and respectful approach – it works! Feel free to use my script if it helps.
This is the exact message I send (I typically tweak it to make it personal to each person):
“I've been reflecting on our date and whilst I had a great time with you, there isn't a strong enough connection on my side. I don't want to mislead you or waste our time so I think it's best if we don't meet for a second date all the best for the future though.”
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