65: Blindsided By Red Flags In Your 30s? Here's How To Remove The Shame
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Blindsided By Red Flags In Your 30s? Here's How To Remove The Shame
If you’ve ever thought, “How did I miss that?” “I should’ve known better” “I can’t believe I didn’t recognise that sooner” or “After everything I’ve worked on… how the fuck did I fall for this?” this is the episode for you.
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m diving into something I don’t think we talk about enough: the shame that creeps in when you get blindsided by red flags, even after your healing era. You’ve done the work. You’ve been to therapy. You’ve raised your standards. So how tf did you still fall for someone who wasn’t good for you?
I’ve been there, and I know how disheartening it feels when you realise you ignored signs you swore you’d never overlook again. Listen now for your permission slip to forgive yourself, stop spiralling, and shift back into your confident, take-no-shit energy
Here’s a sneak peek into what we discuss:
1. The shame spiral after ignoring red flags, even post-healing
2. Why subtle red flags are often the most damaging
3. How to stop blaming yourself and rewrite your narrative
4. The simple 4-step “Switch Your Story” process to release shame
5. Why they don’t deserve access to you (including your social media)
6. How to affirm your way back into an empowered mindset
7. Revisiting your standards, even if you’re not looking for “The One”
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Burned Haystack Dating Method Facebook Group
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