35: How to Level Up In Love
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How to Level Up In Love
Are you ready to level up in love?
In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I delve into the crucial aspects of levelling up in love, drawing from personal experiences and insights.
We explore the importance of building a deep connection with intuition and self, emphasising self-care to reduce anxiety in relationships. Abandoning yourself when starting to see someone new is a common pitfall and I share my journey of breaking free from this pattern.
We cover a LOT in this ep, here’s a tiny overview:
1. Mindset Tips for Levelling Up: We’re starting this episode by exploring in depth 3 powerful mindset tools you can use to help you improve your dating life whether you’re just getting started or you’ve been seeing someone for a while.
2. Learning to Be Less Reactive: We’re highlighting the significance of managing your reactions in new relationships. Instead of impulsively expressing emotions, I’m sharing exactly what I do to allow me to communicate from a calmer, more objective standpoint.
3. Remove the Mask: We couldn’t ignore the importance of authenticity when it comes to dating! I talk about why it’s ok if your opinion is different to someone else’s and how I felt confident using my voice again.
4. Striking the Balance Around Vulnerability: Finding a balance between openness and oversharing is crucial. I’m sharing my experience of being excessively vulnerable early on in relationships, leading to vulnerability hangovers and potential misunderstandings.
5. Understanding Triggers: I’m opening up about how I navigate moments where past traumas influence my reactions to seemingly simple situations.
6. Observation vs Criticism: Using this simple phrase has helped me to not only communicate things better with the person I’m dating but it’s also allowed me to reassure myself in moments where, historically, I’d have felt rejected.
7. Stop Ignoring Intuition: We’re acknowledging the importance of intuition during dating and I’m sharing practical tips for how to build a deeper connection with yourself. I share personal experiences of ignoring my intuition and the subsequent lessons I learned.
8. Anxiety vs Butterflies: We’re distinguishing between anxiety and the excitement of butterflies. My suggestion is to get curious about these feelings, practising self-soothing techniques and resetting the nervous system for better emotional well-being.
We end the episode stressing the value of self-validation and I invite you to explore Level Up In Love, a brand new three-month program aimed at helping you date with confidence, set better boundaries and manifest a healthy relationship.
Find out more here: Level Up In Love
Episodes mentioned:
This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence
Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here’s How to Believe In It
How to Deal with Rejection When You’re Dating
Watch the video on the (Dis)Comfort Zone Come Down
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